I know how you feel.
Some bands I was in had their way of doing things (funny, none of them could play drums in the slightest) and wanted to hear certain things (get yourself one of those japanese drummers, you know, from either Roland or Yamaha!) from the drummer. I always felt music was something open to interpretation (at least a little) and did whatever I felt (without going completely overboard) until it was time to move on.
In some bands that time comes rather quickly.
Play it your way...
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Kelly
This is the first time I have ever heard of something like this, but my band just jumped my case at a practice for using the ride cymbal during a verse of a song instead of only on the chorus of the song. Is this basically a standard or more likely to just be the way they prefer that I play on that song? They basically just want me to play the HH during all verses and the ride only in the choruses and solos. This is supposedly a democratic band, not a support band for a vocal act like a dictatorship or something.